Saturday, October 22, 2011

Follow-up

Just a couple of days after my latest post, "the 12 commandments by grandpa Silvio"' I watched the Italian news like I usually do, and my reflections on that letter full of meaning written by my grandfather appears even more relevant. On October 15th, an Italian youth representation organized a legal and legitimate protest in Rome. They were raising their voices against corporate greed causing a severe lack of work opportunities for the new generation and the unacceptable instability of those few existing working positions. This is the Italian voice of the "indignant", a global movement that has embedded young generations in all the western world. 
But hiding among them, among a group of educated and brave people, other less virtuous had planned to ruin that peaceful demonstration with the most sneaky crimes. An Italian wing of the yet infamous black blocs, covered their faces and, black-hooded, took up unacceptable acts of violence against pretty much everything that was on their way. With rods and handmade weapons, they attacked banks windows, ATMs. They set fire to a large amount of vehicles parked on the street and outrageously violated a  sacred statue snatching it from a church and smashing it on the ground with extreme violence. 
I was shocked. I couldn't understand the logic behind these incidents. What insane group of people could think that destruction and blood can lead to political change and better life conditions? I admire those, my peers, who have enough courage and hope to fight against the injustice of a spoiled business system and who protest legally showing their reasonable and moderate anger. 
What I found in my grandpa's moral will is definitely something that those hooded cowards do not know. Our parents and grandparents probably had an easier life in a precise time of history when the western world was growing and opportunities were there, available for everybody. It's not their generation's fault if we don't have the same fortune today . There is an Italian common saying that has been modified interesting in a graffiti on a bridge of Rome. It says: "il futuro non è più quello di una volta", " future is no longer what it used to be". I like it and these incidents make me recall this sentence. It's cynic, but quite fitting. 
Identifying myself to those Italians peacefully protesting in Rome, I don't want to sound pessimist as if this was a new reality that we can only face and live with it. Instead, I strongly believe that we, Italian young people, can still have exciting career aspirations if we use a little more creative imagination in inventing our future. Openness is the key word. Openness helps us identifying opportunities in new sectors. It gives us the mindset to learn from others, even when they're very different from what we were used to. Successful careers don't inevitably have to be the reflection of what our father and grandfather used to be. We surely need lawyers, but we don't need too many. Italy is the country with the highest number of lawyers in the world and many of them can't get a stable job. From my modest life experience, I realized that this new globalized world is very interested in what we, Italians, have to say. if not in the longterm, the experience of a period of time outside of our beautiful country, provides us with the opportunity to enlarge our prospectives and have a better understanding of how we can proactively contribute to our society back home. I have a dream. A dream that is attainable and realistic:
When Thomas and I will be tired to live far from our loved ones, I want to go back to Italy and start something that will, somehow, practically use what I have learned living overseas. Something that will have an added-value, that will give a channel to share what I understood from my experiences and will, eventually, ameliorate our Italian (too often limited) society. It may sounds an ambitious goal, but it's not. It's something realistic and feasible and I believe that the seed for change can be found in small projects.

Monday, October 17, 2011

"The 12 Commandments - by Grandpa Silvio"

How many emails do we receive every day? Tons, don't we? 
Most of them are routine messages and we don't really pay attention to them. I mean, very few really catch our eyes. 
But today, in that dry world of my email account full of advertisements, spams and Facebook notifications, I received something that was different from all the others and, to me, it deserves some further consideration. That email arose a lot of conflicting feelings in me and, somehow, I know it will affect my life from now on.


The email in question was sent by my grandfather Silvio. 
Nonno ("grandpa" in Italian) Silvio is my mother's dad, an extraordinary man born in Bari, main city of the beautiful Apulia region, 85 years ago. Yes, "extraordinary" is the right adjective for him, because Silvio Panaro has always been everything BUT ordinary.
He's the only grandparent that I have left and he's a volcano in perennial activity. For his family I am sure that his exuberance was not always easy to deal with, but he's the kind of person (threatened with extinction) that has a lot to tell and to teach.
Grandpa Silvio is a son of the post-war Italian economic miracle. He saw massive changes taking place and he has been smart enough to become part of many of them. He is a man whose life started in extremely tough conditions at the beginning of the XXth century. His determination, however, enabled him to reverse an unfortunate begin into a bright future. A future where he became a successful business man, an esteemed columnist, a diplomat, a credited artist and a very special grandpa of 13 grandchildren. 


Going back to the content of his email... I want to write about it because otherwise I know I will forget all these relevant and private connections my soul and brain are making.
Relevant to me, as nonno Silvio's words had the power to provoke conflicting reactions in me: a slightly uncomfortable sense of injustice and satisfactory sense of fulfillment at the same time. 
Nonno Silvio sent me, and the rest of my family, the draft of his latest book. Yes, he's a  published author and poet and this latest creation is probably the more intimate he has ever written. In it, he collects compositions dedicated to his loved ones: family members and closest friends. 
I don't want to dwell on why some parts were so hard to digest. It certainly has to do with unhealthy mechanisms that make you mistakenly think you somehow have a say in your relatives' life decisions. I realize that I really don't, but I can't come to understand that all the poems written for a woman, all the odes of love, are not dedicated to my sweet (rest in peace) grandmother Maria. They were all written, not always legitimately, for my grandpa's present wife: Lucia. A good woman who certainly deserved and deserves to be loved, but who entered my grandparent's family life a little too early, a little too mischievously. And it's impossible not to link her appearance with a bitter note, overshadowing all her indisputable good qualities. I'm pretty sure my sense of discomfort would multiply disproportionally if thinking from my mom's perspective. A perspective that strongly believes her mother, my grandmother Maria, may have lived longer if only my grandpa would have made different choices. I don't know if it makes sense, and obviously it doesn't matter anymore, but one thing is certain. My nonnna's heart could have suffered much less.


Anyways...Let's go back to a more positive thinking. I want to share the valuable good of this email!!!
Keeping reading through the many poems and pieces written by my grandpa, I found a special one dedicated to his grandchildren. That includes me and it's significant to me.
I read his writing as his moral will to us: a precious lesson that I will never forget. 


This is the original version in Italian: 

Ai miei nipoti
  1. Quando vi alzate la mattina bevete alcuni bicchieri d’acqua, lavatevi i denti e fatevi il segno della Croce, affrontando la giornata con serenità e fiducia
  2. Scegliete la professione o gli affari che meglio si convengono alle vostre attitudini 
  3. La vostra parola sia sempre verità 
  4. Qualunque cosa facciate, fatela con tutte le vostre forze 
  5. Non esagerate nel mangiare, non fate uso di bevande alcoliche, ma solo mezzo bicchiere a pasto
  6. Sperate sempre, senza tuttavia illudervi troppo 
  7. Non sperperate le vostre forze in varie faccende disparate 
  8. Scegliete buoni amici e buoni collaboratori   
  9. Siate economi  
  10.  Se volete perdere un amico prestateli del denaro  
  11.  Contate solo su di voi
  12.   Dulcis in fundo ricordatevi che l’onestà è il miglior investimento che si possa fare nella vita.
Nonno Silvio
It's not easy to literally translate, but I'll try...

To my Grandchildren
  1. When you wake up every morning drink a few glasses of water and brush your teeth. Then make the Sign of the Cross and face the new day trustfully with happiness.
  2. Choose business activities and careers that better suit your aptitudes. 
  3. Make sure your word always corresponds to the truth.
  4. Try your best at everything you do.
  5. Do not eat too much. Control your consumption of alcohol, limit it to only half glass each meal (He doesn't specify it, but the half glass is intended of wine)
  6. Always keep hoping, without deceiving yourself.
  7. Don't splurge your time and energies in many disparate activities.
  8. Pick good friends and good collaborators. 
  9. Don't spend too much. Be provident. 
  10. If you want to loose a friend, lend him some money.
  11. Only count on yourself. 
  12. "Dulcis in fundo" remember, honesty is the only investment that will pay off for the rest of your life.
Nonno Silvio

My grandfather has not been a perfect man. Like all the great charismatic, sensitive and complex people, he caused some suffering, but he surely generated much more love and happiness.
Personally, I didn't have a patriarchal guide in my life. Sometimes I wish I did, but let's just say that my father was not that type of guide. These "12 commandments" are precious and relevant to me:
Every morning I wake up, I drink two glasses of water and, looking at the sun rising in the desert, I make the Sign of the Cross and welcome the new day with joy.

Grazie Nonno Silvio





  

Thursday, October 6, 2011

Chilling at the Beach...

     Saturday at the beach + Sunset in Jumeirah a couple of weeks ago...

This is, I guess, the main reason why I feel that, in the end, I will enjoy our life in Dubai.
Yes, when everything is new it's not always easy...but you know what? One of my greatest passions is the OCEAN and, here, I have it right there. Anytime I want it! It's there for me every time I need to look at it, swim in it, or just relax by it!
It's such a luxury to live in a developed dynamic city with kilometers of beautiful white sand shores and crystalline blue waters.

Today was my "Sunday" (actually was Saturday, but since the week-end starts on Friday, Saturdays taste like Sundays!). I woke up early to go to school. The swim team I'm coaching had morning races and by the time we were finished it was noon already. 
I quickly changed from my coaching ASD t-shirt into my beach outfit: a light texture summery dress with floral decoration. Ready to go...and there he was, Thomas waiting for me at the school entrance.  Our new convertible's top down, sunglasses on and good music in the background. I felt like jumping in without even open the door!!! Just like they do in some movies! I didn't go that far, but I was really excited just  anticipating the feeling of the warm breeze on our faces. We discovered a couple of international radio channels. This is a song that was playing on FM.92.00. It's a happy song, the perfect soundtrack for our day. Thomas plays it on the guitar and I love the lyrics,  It goes like this:

Island In The Sun
Band :Weezer

When you’re on a holiday
You can’t find the words to say
All the things that come to you
And I wanna feel it too

On an island in the sun
We’ll be playing and having fun
And it makes me feel so fine
I can’t control my brain

When you’re on a golden sea
You don’t need no memory
Just a place to call your own
As we drift into the zone

On an island in the sun
We’ll be playing and having fun
And it makes me feel so fine
I can’t control my brain

We’ll run away together
We’ll spend some time forever
We’ll never feel bad anymore

On an island in the sun
We’ll be playing and having fun
And it makes me feel so fine
I can’t control my brain

We’ll run away together
We’ll spend some time forever
We’ll never feel bad anymore



A l'aventure... Driving in freedom we can discover new places and stop everywhere we want! We decided to explore the area around the Burj Al Arab (known as "la Vela", in Italian). We found a very nice beach where you can park your car just few steps from the sand.  The video on the top of this post is taken there, today! Nice isn't it? I swam a few hundred meters up to the buoy and back! I felt refreshed, regenerated. Often when I'm coaching the kids at school I feel like jumping in the pool and swim with them. I'm not sure if I could keep up on their training...but, definitely, I feel the urgency to get into the water. Nothing gives me pleasure and peace together with strength and energy like the water does. It's my element. It's such a powerful element. It rocks you gently but it can also be a tough constraint. You cannot fight it. You just have to learn how to embrace it and become part of it. 
Yesterday I was at the pool of our residence compound. I was floating in the water breathing calmly. My eyes were closed and the pool's reflections made me perceive a shimmery glint of sun and water underneath my eyelids.

Today I feel well. Somehow released and I don't even know from what...but it feels good!
    




Saturday, October 1, 2011

Wake me up when September ends...in Dubai


Somehow, I guess we survived this first month and 15 days in Dubai.
Everybody from Florence to Tokyo keeps asking me how we are doing and how life is treating us here! Let' s try to look back and recall my very first impressions:
Honestly...it was pretty bad!
Although I knew where I was going and wasn't expecting something different, find my self  thrown in a total new situation, was harder than expected.
After overcoming the biggest tsunami/earthquake of the last 100 years, you  might make the mistake to think you'll be fine anywhere you go, no matter what!
But I can tell you, that might be a rushed conclusion. In my case it definitely was.
Coming from 4 years in Tokyo, where I lived awesome experiences, had plenty of great friends and loved each single corner of the country, I should have known that any comparison would have been a crushing defeat. And that is my main problem, I believe: comparison.
I keep comparing everything and I know it's wrong. I couldn't think of two places more different than Tokyo and Dubai. What's the point of comparing them? I know I shouldn't, but I can't help it. I constantly catch my self red-handed! Even a couple of hours ago it happened, in relation to an extremely futile issue:
I was cooking, making my bolognese sauce for dinner, and I felt a little something crawling on my leg! Yaaak! As I jumped and scratched my leg to make "the thing" go away, I realized it was one of that flying cockroaches who likes to hang out around here. And guess what was the first thing that came into my mind? "Japanese cockroaches are way more discrete and less intrusive!!!"
Isn't it insane? Believe me, Japanese "gokiburi" are really disgusting! They are huge and like to hide everywhere in your apartment during the hot season. These creatures in Dubai are way smaller and their color is light brownish...They are actually more "pleasant looking" than their  Japanese cousins (with hairy black legs). But maybe I'm just in the initial phase where everything seems better just because it's Japan-related, reassuring and well known. Have a look at the first picture! This nasty cockroach dared to climb up my leg and (few nights ago) even landed on me while I was in bed!!!!!!!!!!!